Client Story: Care Giving and Love

During a recent visit, Lucy whispered, “He thinks I am his sister, and it breaks my heart.” She explained that when Michael, her husband of nearly 60 years, recognises her, he holds her hand, kisses her constantly, and won’t let go. To help him remember her, she sometimes changes outfits or restyles her hair, surprising him with, “Hi honey, I am here!” He reacts with joy and never lets her go. Bedtime is the hardest when he asks, ‘When is Lucy coming? Can you call her?’ She texts herself, shows him the message, and he can then go off to sleep with a smile. 

Michael lives with advanced dementia is wheelchair-bound and can walk only a few steps with support. His Level 4 Home Care Package provides just 2 hours of service per day, leaving Lucy responsible for the remaining 22 hours. 

Despite his condition, thanks to Lucy’s unwavering care and inventiveness, Michael is safe, clean, chatty, and joyous, with no falls, open wounds, or infections in the past year. She embraces the new Michael, allowing him to express his wishes to live with dignity and happiness. Their story highlights the immeasurable love and understanding family caregivers provide. 

Lucy’s tenderness touched me deeply, and I left their home with uplifted spirits.

Thank you, Lucy and Michael, for this valuable lesson.